1.Talk, don't text.
You should talk to someone before you drive across town to meet them for coffee. For many people, that means texting. I think it's a waste of time. A one-liner and emoji to another person won't tell you much - because you won't be able to experience their facial expressions, voice changes or reactions in real time. You can get at least two of them over the phone - and you don't have to leave the house. Speaking is often more sincere than sending text messages. Don't send meaningless messages just to save time or convenience.
2.But do leave home.
Another problem with text messaging is that many people get so caught up in their portable flirting devices that they delay meeting for weeks or even months. This back-and-forth is fun, and they don't want to risk disappointment in face-to-face communication. The problem is, when all you have to do is type these balloons, your mind will fill in the blanks. You'll create fantasy versions of each other - which will greatly increase your chances of disappointment. Reduce your risk by meeting people before you become emotionally attracted to them.
3.Make it easy.
Don't book a fancy French restaurant or buy expensive theater or concert tickets to impress your first date. Find a place that is convenient for both of you. Sure, a cafe or bar is a great stress reliever, but you can also ask your date to do something with you that you would have liked to have done - take your dog for a walk in the park or hit the local market. Keep your first date as simple as possible. Dates that are too complicated or too grand can be stressful. A relaxing environment makes for a pleasant day.
4.But try.
Even if your ts date is casual, be good. There's nothing more frustrating than a date to get all dolled up and clean out the garage. A well-buttoned shirt is as comfortable as a sweatshirt, but it sends a much better message. That is, "I am an adult who respects myself and you" rather than "I have given up." Try to look good and show your confidence. If you're not happy with how you look, no one will be happy with how you look.